So why do we think they have a better life than us? Why do we imagine they have perfect children, amazing sex, and a profession that they love?
Ok, so maybe it's really not a 'we' but an 'I'?
I don't think I'd describe myself has a 'jealous' person. Sure there are things I wish I had, or deeper relationships, but why does that turn into jealousy towards L? Why do I picture that she has wonderful kids, a terrific love life, and a job that fulfills her?
I've read about the whole blank-slate-thing, and she's clearly not a blank slate, but either way how does 'positive regard' turn into this?
My life is not perfect but there's certainly no one in my life that I would trade with, so why with L? Although I don't think I'd want to trade necessarily, I guess I just want to be part of it, in a meaningful way. I guess 'meaningful' to her.
Just random long-weekend thoughts........
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ReplyDeleteI often wonder about my therapist's "perfect" life, too...
I think wanting to be a meaningful part of my t's life was how it was for me. It took a long time for me to come to terms with the fact it wasn't going to happen in the way I thought it would. In fact I didn't want to tell her the 'bad' things about my life in cause it tainted how she saw me.
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