Saturday, November 26, 2011

So why do we think they have a better life than us?  Why do we imagine they have perfect children, amazing sex, and a profession that they love? 

Ok, so maybe it's really not a 'we' but an 'I'? 

I don't think I'd describe myself has a 'jealous' person.  Sure there are things I wish I had, or deeper relationships, but why does that turn into jealousy towards L?  Why do I picture that she has wonderful kids, a terrific love life, and a job that fulfills her?

I've read about the whole blank-slate-thing, and she's clearly not a blank slate, but either way how does 'positive regard' turn into this?

My life is not perfect but there's certainly no one in my life that I would trade with, so why with L?  Although I don't think I'd want to trade necessarily, I guess I just want to be part of it, in a meaningful way.  I guess 'meaningful' to her.

Just random long-weekend thoughts........


  1. Hi, just wanted to let you know i changed the url to my blog. It's now
    I often wonder about my therapist's "perfect" life, too...

  2. I think wanting to be a meaningful part of my t's life was how it was for me. It took a long time for me to come to terms with the fact it wasn't going to happen in the way I thought it would. In fact I didn't want to tell her the 'bad' things about my life in cause it tainted how she saw me.