Why does therapy still have to be all about the relationship with me?
On one hand, having devoured countless books and articles about therapy I know that a big predictor of the success in therapy has to do with the relationship, I get that I really do. But what I'm having trouble understanding is why I constantly need to talk about it with her. Why do I analyze (obsess) and deconstruct every little thing? Why do I keep questioning it? Why do I not believe the 'realness' of it? And why can't I just settle on a way to feel?
Also, why does it seem to crush me when I'm thrown by it? Why do I have trouble functioning in the real world when things like this happen? Why can't I compartmentalize it like I can do with other things in my life? Why does it seem to take over my whole being?
Why the need for therapy for therapy?