Thursday, October 27, 2011

Why does therapy still have to be all about the relationship with me? 

On one hand, having devoured countless books and articles about therapy I know that a big predictor of the success in therapy has to do with the relationship, I get that I really do.  But what I'm having trouble understanding is why I constantly need to talk about it with her.  Why do I analyze (obsess) and deconstruct every little thing?  Why do I keep questioning it?  Why do I not believe the 'realness' of it?  And why can't I just settle on a way to feel?

Also, why does it seem to crush me when I'm thrown by it?  Why do I have trouble functioning in the real world when things like this happen? Why can't I compartmentalize it like I can do with other things in my life?  Why does it seem to take over my whole being?

Why the need for therapy for therapy?


  1. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and say "it is what it is". It's great to examine things, but it's also great to take a break and enjoy life.

  2. I hear ya Mildred and I agree with you, but for some reason I can't seem to get myself there. Actually, sometimes I can get myself there, I just can't seem to maintain it too long.