tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post6409709571039683160..comments2023-04-09T05:50:24.227-04:00Comments on Normal Was Not My Goal: NormalWasNotMyGoalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14687479883199918652noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post-16317544887851857012011-09-21T08:36:19.084-04:002011-09-21T08:36:19.084-04:00Thanks Amanda. In my head I know you're right...Thanks Amanda. In my head I know you're right, but somehow it doesn't make it any easier. And I know others have walked down this path before, but somehow I still feel like the only one. <br /><br />This therapy-stuff really is bizarre!NormalWasNotMyGoalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687479883199918652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post-216409895922839102011-09-21T02:12:43.827-04:002011-09-21T02:12:43.827-04:00This is tough, I can feel it in your writing. And ...This is tough, I can feel it in your writing. And I'm very sorry that you are needing to go through this. I say 'need' because I know once you work through some of this, it will make things flow better between you two. <br /><br />It sounds like she is open to hearing what you will be saying. Perhaps just offer a 'warning' prior to coming out with the answers to questions like that ... a bit of: "I'm very nervous telling you these things because I don't want you to look at me differently. I don't quite understand my feelings surrounding this at the moment, however, I was thinking this, this and this on my way in."<br /><br />While I don't know exactly how this feels for you, I can understand the situation. I spent many weeks in therapy, with my therapist asking me about our dynamic together. She said that until I am able to work through that with her, I will not be able to have healthy relationships anywhere. I'm not sure if this is relevant at this point, but I mention it anyway.<br /><br />Continue to explain that you're nevous, feel that she may look at you differently, don't understand your own feelings, etc. She has surely come across a situation like this before - so try not to feel isolated. As for the holding and the crying - it sounds like you are looking for a connection, a bit of caring from her - that is normal. Who wouldn't want to feel that kind of care from someone significant in our lives? Someone who has helped us as they do?<br /><br />I hope your next session goes better.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05166689236909570817noreply@blogger.com