tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post4431083531410911861..comments2023-04-09T05:50:24.227-04:00Comments on Normal Was Not My Goal: The Third RailNormalWasNotMyGoalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14687479883199918652noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post-31519239386761859372011-07-08T08:31:04.008-04:002011-07-08T08:31:04.008-04:00Just my thoughts, and I could be totally off base,...Just my thoughts, and I could be totally off base, but if she's not comfortable with your attachment would you consider seeing someone else? <br />The last T I saw definitely wasn't comfortable with my attachment/connection issues. It took me a lot of going back and forth with her to realize she wasn't the right T for me. And after interviewing a bunch of T's I think I finally found the right one for me, and it's helped tremendously.<br />Just a thought. And what does your t say about your attachment stuff?NormalWasNotMyGoalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687479883199918652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post-54908192163650359662011-07-08T00:35:43.892-04:002011-07-08T00:35:43.892-04:00Yes, too vulnerable. She will only do therapy in ...Yes, too vulnerable. She will only do therapy in short term chunks now. I have developed a strong attachment to her and so I think each time a short term chunk of therapy was done I would have to keep dealing with the abandonment. I'm not sure I can do that. I don't think this would be a problem if I didn't like her so much.lostinamazehttp://inamaze.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post-37848537442723161692011-07-07T11:55:54.914-04:002011-07-07T11:55:54.914-04:00lostinamaze, why does the strong connection mean y...lostinamaze, why does the strong connection mean you can't go back to her? Too vulnerable?NormalWasNotMyGoalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687479883199918652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1946316417074826415.post-31037958080306953272011-07-07T01:32:47.337-04:002011-07-07T01:32:47.337-04:00When my t told me I could go back and see her at s...When my t told me I could go back and see her at some point in time I was honest with her and told her it might not be possible for me to do so. I told her if I didn't it was because I liked her too much and felt a strong connection to her. I told her for that reason I couldn't do therapy in short chunks of time. I think it's great she's honest with you about the counter transference.lostinamazehttp://inamaze.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com